Have you ever had days where you just felt “BLAH?”
Days where you felt inadequate? We ALL have them, I don’t care how confident you are, you have days where you just don’t feel up to par. It’s human of us to experience these emotions, but the problem is some of us CHOOSE to stay there.
What I want to address in today’s blog is the temptation of insecurity and self-pity. These are two things I personally believe women go through a lot. There is so many magazines, t.v shows, social media sites, relationships, etc.. that cause women to constantly compare. Comparison is not exactly what I want to address here though. ( I have a blog on this topic on the site) I want to address the negative spirit that we run to for comfort instead of running to God. It is so easy to sit in a corner and whine. It is so easy to feel like the world is crashing down on your shoulders and for us to make mountains out of mole hills. Is it right to do these things? No. Do some women have legit reasons why they may feel burdened or unworthy? Of course. Let me make it clear, I’m addressing the choice to STAY in a constant state of self-pity. It is not healthy.
Insecurities come to us for many different reasons, we can choose to overcome the emotion one of two ways; we can become extremely prideful and belittle others to make ourselves feel great, or we can continue repeating the lies in our minds stating that we are worthless and not good enough which equals self-pity.
I’m encouraging us to choose two different options; JOY and CHRIST. When we are faced with the temptation to feel insecure, we have to choose in that moment to reflect on WHO WE ARE. What I mean by who we are is, who GOD SAYS YOU ARE, not the negative messages you are telling yourself. My husband reminds me of this every time I have a moment of feeling inadequate, he builds me up. Encouraging me to remember who I am IN CHRIST, and what God has called me to do. To be even more transparent with you I almost didn’t want to blog anymore, not because I didn’t feel lead to do it, but because I was stuck in all the things I haven’t done to my blog yet, or all the time I didn’t have to dedicate to writing more, growing in the gift of blogging. I mean it is a very complex skill. It involves marketing, branding, etc. I started to go into this whoa is me mentality where I felt like nothing I wrote was good enough and I started losing inspiration. Thank God for speaking through my better half and my close girlfriends who stand by my side when I don’t feel like I can do things. It’s as if God used them as a mirror to show me all the great reasons why I DO need to write and why I AM good enough. Regardless of what’s not “perfected” my content is Christ centered, and that is what matters the most right now.
Every time I write, its because God is dealing with me about the exact topic. Renewing my mind and growing me through things. I feel led to share the topics with the world because I know someone else is struggling and may need an encouraging word like I did.
So what is the solution? It is going on a journey to find our joy, contentment and value in Christ. Like my husband always says “When you know who you are, no one can take that away from you.” Maybe you are like me and had some days where you forgot who you were. Go back to the drawing board. Go back to your maker and spend time with him. I’ve noticed when I start having these feelings it is an indication that I haven’t spent the time I needed to with the Lord, and because of that lack, I feel insecure.
Furthermore, beyond spiritual reasons, sometimes we forget who we are as far as keeping ourselves together on the outside. Never lose your confidence and creativity with your style or how you take care of yourself physically. These things also play a major part in those feelings of insecurity if you have put yourself on the back burner. If you don’t take care of yourself first how can you help someone else? So get dressed up for no reason sometimes, go out with some friends, do something new with your hair or clothes, put some extra jazz into a date night and enjoy being who God made you! Never forget who you are. You are good enough, not because I said so but because GOD SAID SO.