Comparison : The thief of your Joy


We are all guilty of this mindset, it has polluted our way of thinking when it comes to contentment and being comfortable in who God called us to be.

We are constantly bombarded through television and media with the lives of celebrities, what they are wearing, what they are doing, who they are dating, what kind of make-up to wear, what clothes are out and what’s hot versus what’s not. There is a tremendous amount of pressure to follow these trends and be just like {Insert name here}.

Comparison is the thief of Joy, it causes you to look at your life and access what you don’t have compared to whomever. Then in return causes either envy, jealousy or resentment towards God for not having these “things” as well. Social media is the main culprit of why and where people make these comparisons. Social media is an outlet for people to broadcast their lives in many different lights, they can make their lives seem perfect or make you think they are perfect just by building a persona they want you to buy into. Everyone is not guilty of this, some people are genuinely on social media to interact with friends and family. But, we have to admit though, there is a large group of people who live to flex.

Comparison starts in our hearts and makes us discontent with the lives God gave us. We become ungrateful, not realizing someone always has it worst off. Instead of us being thankful for the path that he has given each of us we find reasons to complain about these individual paths. “Where is my man? Why am I not married yet? I look better than her, why didn’t he like me?”  All this comparison leaves us feeling unworthy and bitter. If we never had another life to compare ours to we would never feel inadequate. The real problem is not innocent comparison in itself because reality is we are all human and we all compare at times. The problem is the dwelling, lurking on social media pages, becoming depressed, envy building in your heart, etc. THAT is when you know its not some innocent comparison, it has become an insecurity and heart issue.

Personal story: I went natural in 2008. My hair grew past my shoulders to middle back, bra strap length. I then made a horrible decision to cut my hair and color it excessively. You guessed it, my hair broke off and was so short. I felt as if I was starting my natural journey all over again. Now I am patiently taking better care of my hair and allowing it to grow back. What made me discontent even in my bad decision making was watching YouTube videos of girls who had my hair length and reminiscing over how long my hair was. It was bad, like I complained about my hair for days. Not realizing that I should be thankful to have hair, some people cant grow hair due to diseases or serious hair growth problems. Don’t take what you have for granted ever, there is always someone who wishes they were in your shoes.

The Bible says to guard our hearts. Proverbs 4:23 Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.

We have to guard ourselves against the easy trap of comparison. We fight discontentment with contentment. Paul said it best: Philippians : 4:11-13 Not that I speak from want, for I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances I am. I know how to get along with humble means, and I also know how to live in prosperity; in any and every circumstance I have learned the secret of being filled and going hungry, both of having abundance and suffering need. I can do all things through him who strengthens me.

The enemy of your soul loves when you are not content in Christ. He will throw everything at you to try to fill that void, anything but more of God. He knows that only God can fulfill this void. No material possession, higher education, power or status in life can bring you the contentment that comes in knowing who you are and whose you are. Being content in life will bring a peace that surpasses all understanding. It doesn’t make sense to the people who don’t have it.

Philippians 4:7 And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

So, if you are struggling with being content, I challenge you to take a journal and write down all the things you should be grateful for in your life, write down all the things God has done for you and pray for God to give you a thankful heart, peace and contentment.




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Katondra Dunn

Katondra is a southern girl originally from South Florida. She currently resides in Maryland with her husband and son. She loves Jesus, fitness, good food and new adventures. Her motto is "Do all things with love!"

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